Intimate Partner Violence Prevention
One Love is a non-profit organization founded in 2010 in memory of Yeardley Love, a senior at University of Virginia who was beaten to death by her ex-boyfriend on May 3, 2010. After this tragic incident, Yeardley Love’s mother, Sharon Love, founded One Love to help educate as many young people as possible about the warning signs of relationship abuse as well as to encourage others to be active bystanders when they witness signs of abuse, including highlighting the differences between healthy and unhealthy relationship behaviors. One Love aims to educate, empower and activate young people in a movement for change in their communities surrounding relationship violence.
A note about the workshops: Though facilitators strive to ensure that all OneLove workshops are an overall empowering experience, by the nature of the subject matter, some students have found the videos and subsequent discussions to be heavy and/or triggering. Facilitators will have a list of campus resources to hand out at the conclusion of each workshop and will make themselves available to support participants once the workshop concludes. However, we ask that all interested groups keep the workshop content in mind when considering bringing OneLove to their members.
One Love at Boston College
One Love has developed the "Escalation" workshop to help educate young people about relationship violence and facilitate a dialogue about the warning signs of abuse. Through a recent partnership between One Love and the BC Women’s Center, we are excited to bring this empowering and educational workshop to Boston College and provide our community members with this vital information about a growing problem on college campuses.
The Workshops
Escalation
“Escalation” is a 90-120 minute workshop facilitated by two Boston College community members who have been trained by One Love and supported by the Women’s Center.
The first portion of the training is the screening of a 40-minute film that depicts the trajectory of an abusive college relationship from beginning to end. Following the video, the facilitators will lead the participants in a discussion surrounding the warning signs depicted in the film, as well as ways to intervene as bystanders if they suspect friends or loved ones might be in an abusive relationship.
The workshop ends with a discussion of how to spot healthy and unhealthy relationship behaviors, as well as how the Boston College community can address the issue of intimate partner violence on our campus.
Behind the Post
“Behind The Post” is a 75- 90 minute workshop facilitated by two Boston College community members who have been trained by One Love and supported by the Women’s Center.
The first portion of the training is the screening of an 8-minute film that depicts 10 signs of an unhealthy relationship, all of which appear to be hidden behind glossy, picturesque, and filtered social media posts.
Billions of photos and video are posted to social media every day, and we do not always see the big picture. Social media can often skew the reality of the many relationships around us and, in some cases, influence our decisions to stay in unhealthy ones.
The workshop ends with a discussion of how to spot healthy and unhealthy relationship behaviors, as well as how the Boston College community can address the issue of intimate partner violence on our campus.
Because I Love You
“Because I Love You” is a 60-75 minute workshop facilitated by two Boston College community members who have been trained by One Love and supported by the Women’s Center.
The first portion of the training is the screening of a 2 90 second films that depicts the various ways this impactful phrase can be used within an abusive relationship.
“Because I Love You” may seem like such a sweet and simple statement, but in an unhealthy relationship, it’s often used as a tool for manipulation and control. It can be a cover for a put-down, a way to assign blame, or a deflection of responsibility. Learn to recognize when words of love are used to abuse.
The workshop ends with a discussion of how to spot healthy and unhealthy relationship behaviors, as well as how the Boston College community can address the issue of intimate partner violence on our campus.
Couplets
Couplets is a 45-60min workshop facilitated by two Boston College community members who have been trained by One Love and supported by the Women’s Center.
The first portion of the training is the screening of eight 15sec vignette snapshots that depict various signs of unhealthy relationship behaviors.
There are always signs in an unhealthy relationship. While everyone has behaviors we can work on, we also should not brush aside bad behavior as “cute” or “trivial.” The Couplets features a series of videos that highlight unhealthy relationship behaviors. Seeing several of these unhealthy behaviors in a relationship could signal a problem.
The workshop ends with a discussion of how to spot healthy and unhealthy relationship behaviors, as well as how the Boston College community can address the issue of intimate partner violence on our campus.
Couplets
“Couplets” is a 45-60min workshop facilitated by two Boston College community members who have been trained by One Love and supported by the Women’s Center.
The first portion of the training is the screening of eight 15sec vignette snapshots that depict various signs of unhealthy relationship behaviors.
There are always signs in an unhealthy relationship. While everyone has behaviors we can work on, we also should not brush aside bad behavior as “cute” or “trivial.” The Couplets features a series of videos that highlight unhealthy relationship behaviors. Seeing several of these unhealthy behaviors in a relationship could signal a problem.
The workshop ends with a discussion of how to spot healthy and unhealthy relationship behaviors, as well as how the Boston College community can address the issue of intimate partner violence on our campus.